Labels + Belief

Happy Monday my friends! Today I want to talk about the power of labels that we give ourselves and believe. The inner voice that tells us we are a certain thing. We give ourselves a negative label based on 1 experience or 1 mistake. We give ourselves this negative label and our subconscious then goes to work to make it real. Our inner voice begins to remind us of this negative label and repeats it, over and over again.

I am always late. I am not that smart. I am so stupid. That's just the way I am. I am so lazy. I am a terrible listener. I am too big. I am too small. I am a terrible listener. I am the worst mother. I am a horrible mother. I can't change. I am alone. I am just always going to be a __________ fill in the blank.

We don't understand the power of labels we give ourselves. The power of the inner voice. We have the ability to change our own narrative. We can change the inner voice. We have the ability to completely obliterate a label and create a new one for ourselves.

If I yelled at 1 of my kids out of frustration I would quickly tell myself I am a terrible mother. Yep, I am a horrible mother because I shouldn't yell or get frustrated with my kids. Then I get angry at myself for being a terrible mother. Instead of trying to figure out why I am frustrated I work to live up to the label. The label makes me shameful. This is not okay. We can't beat ourselves up for a mistake and then make it as if we are like this all the time. NO! Not anymore. What if I flip this label thing on it's head? What if I do something different? What if I call myself a blogger (writer) everyday for 3 months. Every morning I get to work about 20 minutes early so I have time to have coffee, pray and write. Every morning I write what I am as if it has already happened. I label myself, a great wife, mother, friend. I tell myself I am a writer, business owner and I am debt free. Every single day for the past few months I gave myself those labels. I labeled myself a writer and then I did it. I wrote! This weekend I someone asked me "What do to you do" without thinking I talked about my full-time 9-5er but I said, " I am a blogger part-time". It felt really good to actually say it. Claim it. Label it. I am a blogger.

I have the power to create my own label. Good or bad. I can believe it with everything I have and then live to fulfill the label. I can label myself a great mom - even though I make mistakes sometimes. That's okay. There is no perfection on this side of heaven (except for dark chocolate truffles). I can label myself a great wife, a great friend.

Labels have so much power. Stop labeling yourself negatively and turn it around. I use to be late all the time, but not anymore! I use to be angry all the time, but I am a work in progress. I am loved. I am enough.

Have an amazing day friends. Make it count!